Brittany Morgan, National Writer's Society2. Do not take one happy/bad moment as proof of recovery/relapse. My fiancé drove me to the hospital both times and took it very seriously. Encouraging me also means allowing me time to do these activities by taking the kids for a bit.” ― Sandra B. “Encourage your partner to see a therapist. It’s okay to feel angry at times, or as though you want to throw your hands in the air and walk away. It can be difficult, messy, and frustrating. Anhedonia is the cause of the desire to leave to find a new, more intense life. While depression and anxiety have specific markers for diagnosis, you may pick up on a person’s warning signs before they fully develop depression or anxiety. Some days, getting out of bed and putting on real pants is a monumental achievement. Other days will hold bigger victories, like breakthroughs in therapy sessions or stopping a panic attack before it sets in. Living with these two diseases is extremely difficult, but so is living with and loving someone who suffers from them. Anxiety is a real mental health issue. 2. How To Love Someone with Anxiety. if(isFeed1x1){ The holiday season, from Halloween to New Year's, provides us with a large array of puns and clever captions to choose from each time we upload something to the TL. He sent me this wonderful post on mental health that I couldn’t not post. It’s hard to know what to do or say. All rights reserved. With the holiday season upon us (finally! Nervous energy is still energy. In light of the resurgence of the Black Lives Matter movement, and the countless fight towards racial equality, Black-owned businesses could really use our support this holiday season. No-one tells them how to cope. In either case, if someone you love is depressed, the best thing you can do is be open and willing to learn. While we both suffer, it affects us differently and what helps me may not help him. You will be thought of and cared for like you never have before.” ― Hope J. “Patience truly is a virtue. Anxiety and depression are very scary words on their own. Living With an Anxiety Disorder Depression ebbs and flows and moves up and down. The main thing you can do is just be there. In this day and age mental illness is still largely seen as a taboo, as a result your loved ones may not be very open to discussing the things they are experiencing. googletag.defineSlot(window._sectionAndPostAdSettings+'/feed_1x1', [1, 1], 'div-gpt-{{}}-content-ad').addService(googletag.pubads()); There will be nights that horrible panic attacks keep you up for hours on end. Let them know that they’re safe, and cared for. How to support someone with depression. They are not seeking attention, nor want any coddling or rose-colored glasses handed to them. We are usually 1000 percent aware whatever we are anxious about is irrational. While uncompleted to lists, plans getting messed up, texts going answered, might overwhelm someone with anxiety, if there is something they are good at it’s love. I would like to try and offer some advice to Truly understand if your partner could make it go away, they would.” ― Jenn S. “I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. When he encounters someone who is convinced that the marriage is dead, he says that he always suspects depression or another mood disorder. This post was originally posted on, a website for the modern woman learning to navigate life. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, it affects 40 million adults in the United States alone, making it the country's most common mental illness. While anxiety and depression seem to exist on opposite ends of the emotion spectrum, more often than you might think, they co-exist in the same mind. According to therapist Kate Thieda, author of Loving Someone With Anxiety: “You have the right to have a life, too, and this may mean telling your partner on occasion, and in a loving way, that you are going to do what you want and need to do.” Accommodate their needs, but never forget yours. I’ve known Lon for a little while on Twitter and through blogging. She also takes him on walks with her, out to dinner or to a movie. }); What I would like to do is offer my own story and what’s it’s like loving someone who finds it hard to love themselves.